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If I stay STRONG: Ode to Mary J. Blige

To say I am estatic about the culmination of all the hard work Mary J. Blige has put in over the years that led her to tonight is an understatement. She has literally been the voice of my demographic my entire adult life. Urban, African-American, fashionable,successful women who are unlucky in love. I’m being so REAL right now. I’m forty years old and professionally at my zenith. I’m the Mother of two intelligent, handsome and charming sons born a generation apart. I’ve reinvented myself time and time again. I have perservered and overcome obstacles that would cripple a weaker woman. The last two years have been my greatest tests. I’m deaf-I lost my hearing in my early twenties due to illness. I couldn’t even throw on one of Mary’s(yes Ms. Blige WE take the liberty to call you by your first name) joints and cry, cook and drink this time. I didn’t have to-her REAL life played out for all to see-the greatest EP she could ever release.

“Mudbound” by Hilary Jordan was one of the selections for our PTA book club when my oldest son was in Junior High School. As a Writer and Avid reader I knew this book was special years ago. The way Dee Rees transferred the book and it’s authenticity to the big screen is akin to Steven Spielberg and “The Color Purple”. The foundation Alice Walker set solidified the perfect storm. History has repeated itself once again. Mary’s interpretation of “Florence” is awe inspiring. To KNOW what she was going through in real life at the time makes it all the more magical. She let us see her at her lowest-spiritually, physically and possibly even mentally. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. TIME is the most precious commodity in life. I know from whence I speak. I have come to the realization however that time isn’t lost if you’ve learned something.

Tonight the Academy Awards airs and Mary is nominated for two awards: Best Supporting Actress AND Best Original Song for “Mighty River”. I don’t know what the outcome will be however I will be tuned in with the closed captioning on watching. This night is thirty years in the making. Since her stepfather played her cassette tape for Jeff Redd. Since she was singing backup for Far Rockaway’s own Father MC. Since she stood in that elevator searching for a real love. Since she stood on that cliff and wanted to be happy. Since she donned those shades and promised she wasn’t going to cry. Win or lose tonight Mary has proven that life is what you make it.. I tried to be that Queen with a crown that be down with whatever and so did she. But in all actuality these lyrics are more fitting:

Life is a teacher, time is a healer
And I'm a believer like a river wild
Ego's a killer, greed is a monster
But love is stronger, stronger than them all
Thank you MARY for once again showing US how to be flawless, real, fabulous and genuine. Tonight is your night! You had to take some losses as we all do. But you remained faithful and just like God always does He showed up on His time. Thank you for sharing your world with us. Every time we look in the mirror we see Real Love. When we get low just Reminisce about how once we realize that we can love ourselves better than anyone else can then we will truly encounter no drama. Above all I’m just trying to be happy as well. You gotta believe in YOURSELF! Screw Mr. Wrong Oscar is his name. 
















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