YOU are Enough

I have been going through some things recently as I’m SURE we ALL have. At my former employer, the union motto was “In unity there’s strength! That’s not always TRUE and it’s not always a negative thing to stand or walk alone.  I’m not going to allow ANYONE to make me feel inadequate or that my feelings don’t matter or are not valid! I’m not SORRY I’m GREAT at MANY things. I’m not SORRY that The Creator TIME and TIME again has made a way for ME! This is His PLAN and not mine..... My Mother used to say “if wishes were horses beggars would ride” During this time in HISTORY where uncertainty, sickness, strife and chaos linger in the air like a fog at sunrise I KNOW who I AM! I know how long it has taken me to get here and how far I have come. I didn’t WISH for it I WORKED for it!  My son Jermaine Jr. is my BABY! He is one of  the most intelligent, handsome and dapper young  men I have ever encountered. To KNOW him is to LOVE and ADORE my CHILD! He is the personification...

Eric Adams KNEW he was going to be Mayor LONG before he was elected. There are serious problems that have plagued the DOE for DECADES. Remote learning is inconvenient yes but it’s the safest route. It should be done TODAY. Until the end of the month. The mental health of the teachers is tantamount.  During 2020 we didn’t have any service providers come to my home to assist Jermaine. The most crucial years for children born on the spectrum. After early intervention Pre-K is viral to Autistic children. This time is different. If you close the schools for a definitive amount of time and provide support services to students and parents. And PPE including at home kits. Remote social service availability. More testing sites in highly populated areas.  EVERYTHING is about MONEY. The United States is still one of the richest countries in the world. We GOT it. The government is so corrupt and controlled so we are always at a stalemate about necessary stuff. We would love being home saf...

I became hearing impaired the Spring before September 11. I was working at the phone company and had just gotten a promotion from directory assistance operator to a representative which would morph over time into a sales consultant. It was a harrowing experience being Deaf and working in telecommunications yet I wouldn’t trade it for ANYTHING because it gave my son a childhood people STILL covet and prepared me for ANYTHING.  This picture right here is when JJ was a baby. Newly Motherless and SINGLE I took this picture because Aunt Colette A beautiful, independent and STRONG Woman and Mother. Gwendolyn’s Daughter.  I’m not who I USED to be! I am comfortable in my own skin and I KNOW and OWN who I am. I am an Intelligent woman of color who has defied odds, broken down barriers and been the voice for the voiceless. I strive to be a leader by example and bridge the divide. My community is going through a gentrifying revitalization and I am documenting and experiencing it.  I...

You can lead a horse to water but you cannot force them to drink. My Father used to say this all the time! Self care is imperative to longevity, health and prosperity. I cannot worry about anything more than myself including my children. I can’t and I AIN’T(I meant to write that) When I was in elementary school my teachers used to teach me new words every day especially Ms. Goldstein and Ms. Bell. Ms. Bell was suppose to “carry me” Ms. Goldstein went on sabbatical but came back early because we weren’t staying up to par. My classsmates and childhood friends are so brilliant! I remember everything and I still LIVE here! I learned how to read at 4 years old because I talked LATE so I was non verbal but understood  everything like JJ so Granny gave me Mommy and Auntie’s high school math book to READ! It was orange and after the first thing I said EVER “Mommy I don’t want any oatmeal” I started reading the MF BOOK y’all! (Fred loves this STORY)  I am deaf but worked at the phone c...

 I just want to take a moment and thank everyone near and far for the love shown to my child this holiday  season. From the School to my family, friends and neighbors I am truly thankful.  Christmas  has always been a special time to me. My Mother worked so HARD for MONTHS every YEAR in the Post Office to give us a joyous Christmas . As I age I adore her even more because everyone wasn’t “Mothering” My Father put EVERYTHING together. For EVERYONE. He was the epitome of a Father. He was so GOOD to US. His death wasn’t the true tragedy, me discovering it years later was. He understood though because children often don’t appreciate their parents until they are gone. Not only do I look just like him but I inherited his trait of constantly reinventing myself. I saw my friend walking his kids down these same streets and it touched my heart. Daddy used to take us with him so Mommy could get some REST. He KNEW she was TIRED and he cared! My parents got along SO well because ...

My KIDS drive me CRAZY! I love them but they do the MOST! I KNOW Ginny it must of been HELL having a child scared to swim AND fly! Ginny I have a PASSPORT! I’ve been on quite a few PLANES this year. It’s only been two years!  I’m a learn to SWIM Monmy! I am! Martha Beck a columnist and Doctor I have followed for years through Oprah advised that we put something you fear write it down and say you are going to conquer it. Only because you will help others. Or how you will use it for the greater GOOD! THIS will help you achieve it! The link is on my page y’all 👇🏾 I’m watching “Working Moms” by Catherine Reitman (Ivan’s daughter) and it’s a GAMECHANGER! I wanna be up there with these bitches🙋🏾‍♀️🤣😏EXACTLY who I AM! In CANADA with JJ! I’m already writing a book I got my shit going I promised my family! My Aunts ain’t playing with me. Uncle James JUST died! FOR NOTHING! We telling IT! I’ll sell them myself like Ms. Sharon (Sonna’s Mother🕊) and DOE English Department Alumni and Tra...

When David was little I was always RUSHING, busting my ASS and EARS trying to make ends meet. Working a job that I detested to give my child a life many would COVET 😏🤦🏾‍♀️ But there’s GLORY in my STORY because it was written by The Creator and this go round I am present and my Baby is TALKING! NOTHING in the WORLD means more to ME than THAT!  BOTH my children see me being the independent, fearless and STRONG woman that is a replica of my dear, beautiful departed Mother. I’m sorry Ginny if you never knew how much I truly appreciate you on Earth and in Heaven because you were one of kind and raised us the best you could with what you had and I am honored to be your child.  I emphasize the word STRONG because the love of my life saw in me what I couldn’t see in MYSELF! Sometimes in our quest for normalcy and inclusion we forget to embrace the fact that we aren’t born to just fit in we are born to stand out!  My Paternal Grandmother loved each and every one of us uniquely ...