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It's a Wonderful Life

My week started out amazing. I was going to see my Goddaughter Angelica Baisley in Delaware. I synchronized my Christmas wish list with my reality. I was going to get my hair braided. I was going to go to a movie theatre with captioning with Mo and dinner without my kids for once. I then came down with strep throat.

When you are hearing impaired you feel everything more acutely. To say I was not feeling well was an understatement. I did everything-tea, gargling with salt water, rest and finally I knew before the doctor confirmed it that this was bad. Besides some contraction worthy cramps now and then this is like the second time I have been sick since Jermaine was born. I'm thankful for my baby's patience and understanding. The show must go on.  Mommy can't stop, won't stop.....(in my Puffy voice)

Anyhoo last night "It's A Wonderful Life" was on. In 2015 I refused to watch it. Last year was a blur I don't really remember anything about the holidays. I caught the last twenty minutes. I have seen this movie about three hundred times. Years ago before cable, streaming, satellites, and greed we were able to enjoy things for free. This movie would come on every channel all day. Now you have to get in where you fit in. I digress-this was my Granny AND my Mother's favorite movie. It always brought tears to Mommy's eyes and you know Mommy didn't cry about much.

I felt like she was sitting right next to me. It was the part where they are all in the living room counting the money. Where George is seeing his family for the first time after his experience. George lost his hearing saving Harry at the pond a fact that my Mother would look at me every time that part played. My favorite part is when Harry toasts George and calls him the richest guy in town. Possessions are just that possessions. I stopped smoking cigarettes because I have been smoking on and off since I was fourteen years old. I have a toddler who depends on me for everything. I must live to help him grow up. I have to make the right choices.

To watch that movie with J.J. felt so good. I wonder if  Philip Van Doren Stern knew when he wrote "The Greatest Gift" (which he self published) that it would turn into this iconic film directed by Frank Capra. Did Jimmy Stewart and all the others KNOW that barring an apocalypse they will live on through time immortalized. Everything we create, speak into existence and encourage has consequences. Negative or positive it all depends on the role we play.

As I type my kids are running around laughing. My Parents live on to enjoy another holiday season. Nana told me years ago that whenever times got hard in my life to remember I came from her and that she created her family. I'm thankful for all the wonderful people in my life. I am so thankful we grew up the way we did. I got lost for so long trying to be everything to everybody. I feel like 2017 was a defining year because it truly made me appreciate all I take for granted. I am blessed and highly favored as are each of you. Don't ever sell yourself short you are doing the best you can. Reflect on where you've been and where you're going. Also take a moment and just LIVE in the moment-it's a wonderful life!

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