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Your Character

Years ago my dear friend Cherylann gave me two great pieces of advice. She said "don't ever let someone take you out your character AND show the world how smart you are". She came to the United States from Trinidad with her little boy Randy long ago and through hard work, sacrifice, investing and living she has amassed a life rich in love, family and she lives her best life each day. I quote Cherylann (whom I affectionately  call C.A.) because she has an amazing work ethic, business acumen and above all values her family. She has been there for me many times, when it counted and when it mattered. I can tell her anything without fear of chastisement, rebuke or scorn. My late Mother always said "Cherylann-that's your REAL friend." The sad irony is that Ms. Veronica her own Mother passed away right before Mommy did. She was there for me as usual in full Big Sister mode, allowing me to vent and so excited about Jermaine Jr.  Our light in the dark, my Saving Grace. Wherever I go in this world I will never forget how I got there and who is on this journey with me.

I KNOW what I wanna do with my life! I want to seize every opportunity and AMASS wealth for my children. My sons are thriving. David and I are so focused. I am thankful for every setback because it allowed me to grow. I always CARE about others. Well I put all that tenderness into myself and it feels amazing! Self love is not selfish. It is mandatory in order to sustain each of us. I want to create a brand that signifies intelligence, honor and integrity. I am not PERFECT. God says "tell Me your DREAMS and I will TOP that". First it was just my book, but LIFE has a way of equipping you with the tools to create an EMPIRE.

At the end of your life you leave with exactly what you came into it with-your spirit. That's IT. My father reinvented himself so many times. He at the end of his life was loved, honored and will always be remembered. I used to be so angry with him for the choices he made in his life and the effects they had on me. Looking back in retrospect it solidified my character. It taught me to not rely on anyone. It taught me even my darkest hour that the sun will shine again. It taught me that my sons carry his DNA in them and they will ALWAYS persevere and that God is the Ultimate Redeemer.  He taught me that his wisdom, and his spiritual guidance are more than enough to get my children where they need to go.

Some days are better than others. At times I want to vent publicly and write scathing diatribes about the actions of others. Trying to dim my light will not make yours burn any brighter. Then I remember who is watching. My sons mean EVERYTHING to me. Fame, accolades and achievements are nice-but to know your children are PROUD OF YOU that's the greatest feeling of all. I am just ME. Perfectly imperfect Kimberly Dawn. David and Jermaine's Mother. Gwendolyn and Ronald's daughter. I LOVE God, my children, clothes, money and loyalty. I cannot rewrite the past. Do over my mistakes, missteps and poor choices. Nor do I want to. Because at the end of the day everything we go through defines your character. Forget the world is watching-your children are. They are the only ones we should be trying to impress. Be a blessing in someones life today even if it's just your own.

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